You may know Cumming as Eli Gold on The Good Wife or the actor playing TV’s first gay leading character on Instinct, but he’s also one of bisexuality’s biggest advocates. Romantically, he had an eight-year marriage to actress Hilary Lyon and a two-year relationship with actress Saffron Burrows. Now he’s married to graphic artist Grant Shaffer.
“I see a worrying trend among LGBT people, that if you identify yourself in just one way, you close yourself off to other experiences. My sexuality has never been black and white; it’s always been gray. I’m with a man, but I haven’t closed myself off to the fact that I’m still sexually attracted to women,” he told The Advocate in 2015.
“It doesn’t matter if you’re married or not, or having sex with anyone or not,” he said. “There are straight couples who don’t have sex. There are gay people who don’t have sex. But if you’re sexually attracted to both sexes, you’re bisexual.”
“This last year is when it really hit me,” he said in his coming-out video. “I always wished that I was gay, that I was 100 percent gay.”
thank u guys for the support. i know “bisexual” is something that gets made fun of & its scary to talk about it but just know u arent alone.
At the time, he also thanked lesbian YouTuber Ingrid Nilsen for opening up about her sexuality, tweeting, “Your video changed my life. Thank you Ingrid.”
After a high-profile breakup with Lisa Schwartz, he now has settled down with boyfriend Ryland Adams. In the face of fear, he’s grown as a creator and documentarian, making the bisexual community extremely proud.
“Malcolm X’s bisexuality is more than just a question of truth and historical fact,” activist Peter Tatchell wrote in The Guardian in 2009. “There has never been any black person of similar global prominence and recognition who has been publicly known to be gay or bisexual.”